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georgia@georgia@netzsphaere.xyz (2026-08-01 09:00:42)
@sun that was part of hjs point. I'm grossed out by poop and thus hate butt stuff (also, not very into butts), but im not homophobic against gay men. the fear of spreading diseases is part of homophobia for many people and I won't say one can't be homophobic because of that, but I think its usually "men acting like women is bad" as the primary or at very least a secondary factor, hence you get so many straight men into butt stuff with women these days and also acceptance of masculine gay men who top historically. also, not all male sex with men is anal. that conception imo is rooted in a heterosexual coitus-centered understanding of sex.
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Blurry Moon@sun@shitposter.world (2026-08-01 09:05:57)
Ok but butt stuff is absolutely coupled with much much higher disease risk. It just is. Not saying that’s an excuse to hate people but people that do butt stuff, including heterosexual couples, are going to have to accept that it’s reasonable to find it vile. I can’t think of a nice way to say that. My out is I made a conscious choice to not care if people choose to do whatever as long as it’s consensual

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georgia@georgia@netzsphaere.xyz (2026-08-01 09:10:49)
@sun I agree with you that hatred of gay men can be caused by finding them dirty (like I said, I find anal sex disgusting but I dont find gay men themselves disgusting) but "they spread diseases" is very often an excuse to hate when the real reason is not so justifiable, like with refugees and the poor and medieval antisemitism. hence for homophobes it usually goes like "they get diseases because theyre bad" and not "theyre bad because they get diseases".