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Jess👾@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange
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I am a woman, but I'm CERTAINLY not a lady.
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Jess👾@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange (2026-08-02 00:43:21)
It seems exhausting to make your whole identity hating people who have done nothing to hurt you.
Jess👾@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange (2026-07-20 03:31:10)
I don't know if it may help any of you, but one of the things I work on with my therapist is a sort of meditation thing to help with panic attacks. Yeah I know, "proper" meditation is difficult for a lot of neurodiverse people, so I don't do the whole stereotype mantra or stare at a candle thing. I just do what works for me:
Reduce physical stimulus - curl up in a comfortable position in a dark room with a plushie or pet (if she's in a chill mood today)
Reduce mental stimulus - zoom the brain as far into the "now" as you can. Just keep telling yourself: "For right now, in this moment, I'm safe. I have today's food in my cabinet. There's something soft in my arms. It's comfortable and dark. I'm petting a soft thing. For this moment in time, all of my hierarchy of needs are met. I'm here and it's soft."
Leave future problems to future self. "Work, the world, money, safety, relationships, whatever else be something that I'll deal with later. For right now, it's just me and it's comfortable and dark and soft."
Just sit with that for as long as you can hold onto it.
Notice when the mind wanders to problems, thank your anxiety brain for her work in trying to warn you about things and keep you safe, and tell her we'll get to that in a little while. When past trauma comes up, thank her for her work in reminding you of past danger, and say you'll keep that in mind in a few minutes. When ADHD brain starts seeking novelty, thank it and let it focus on a different sensation. A different part of the plushy. The feeling of the pillow. The hum of the fan. The feeling when you scrunch your face up or pop your fingers.
After you can't hold onto it anymore, even if it was only for a few seconds or a minute or two, that's fine. Take time bringing yourself up to speed. Let your body wake back up a part at a time. Take some deep breaths, start to feel your feelings again.
Mentally go through your checklist of shit that needs doing and pick a quick and easy win for starter